The Mindset of the Alpha Male
The Mindset of the Alpha Male
It Comes Natural
It comes natural for Alphas; the pack leader isn’t concerned about how he has to “activate” his Alpha qualities in order to succeed. In fact, he won’t even think he’s the leader of the social pack because this is the only life he knows. He won’t be the guy betting with others on who will pick up the hottest girls around town, and somehow he can line up a date out of nowhere. Alphas know there worth, and there don’t need to remind others exactly who and what they are. It’s not a competition, after all, right? Be confident. You don’t need to have everyone’s approval to do the things you want; you can’t make everyone happy.
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The Alpha Mindset and Women
Women are great. This doesn’t mean that they need to be your driving focus in life. In fact, having a girlfriend isn’t something you can force. It happens naturally when you focus on the important things in your life. When you have your life in control, you’ll feel much more confident about approaching women. People feed off of this cool, collected confidence and they will feel drawn to you.
Women are people, too!
She may be the most beautiful person you have ever seen, but she isn’t a god. In fact, she’s just like every other person you’ve ever met. She might like the same things you do, or doesn’t; she might have different tastes in food or music, ultimately, she is a person, just like you. Try approaching women like people, not objects, and you might find it’s not only easier for you to communicate with them, but that you’ll have an easier time connecting with them.
Make yourself vulnerable
Vulnerability, in this instance, is not weakness. You don’t have to be a ‘macho type’ guy who is free of emotions. Being the Alpha doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t reassure your pack that everything is under control; this reassurance is a sign of strength and honesty worth to be followed. Don’t be afraid to tell that hot chick that she is beautiful simply because you don’t want to be labeled as weak. Likewise, don’t try to be the guy who grabs every chick’s ass because you feel like you have something to prove. By asserting yourself and being open and honest, you open up yourself up to being approachable. Alphas feel comfortable, even when you are most vulnerable and that’s what reassures others about your status in your pack.
Know your Territory
You can’t be the best at everything. In fact, you are likely to suck at something. Alpha males understand where their area of influence starts and where it ends. Know your sphere of influence and operate within that sphere, then align yourself with people that are Alpha’s in their own right. Are you great with sales calls, but are terrible with numbers? That’s okay! You’ve got a ‘Numbers Guy’, and he’s the best in the business. In the wild, lone lions keep a low profile when moving through another pride’s territory. That is, unless they are looking to pick a fight. In the example above, this means that if it involves numbers, don’t go around acting like you’ve got it covered if it’s not your territory. Alphas don’t undermine their bosses at work. Why? Because they’ll get fired, and being broke certainly isn’t the best way to keep control of your life, much less your finances. Your boss, in the case of work, is the Alpha of your workplace and if you cannot follow orders, you are out of his pack. Be smart; make yourself his ‘numbers guy’, or ‘the best guy to sell the product’. Make yourself part of his crew, doing the best you can do, and the respect that your inner Alpha requires will fall in to place.
Invest In People and ‘Buy In’
All Alpha’s need a pack, and who better to invest in than the people you care about? Learn about the people that you spend time with. Learn what makes them tick and help them to become the best they can be. When you invest in people with your time and energy, not use them, you are more likely to generate friendships and loyalty. Connections like these are invaluable, even for an Alpha personality, and with the right crew of people helping you get what you want done, you can change worlds.
Don’t be ‘the Funny Guy’
Everyone knows who he is; the Funny Guy is making lots of jokes, doesn’t mind being laughed at, and many times, comes off as if they are trying too hard. While an Alpha is confident and social able enough to be funny, his motivation isn’t entertaining the people around him; that’s the job for the ‘funny guy’.
Let Your Body do the Talking
While body language isn’t the most important thing to becoming an Alpha, it certainly plays a part. On a primal level, humans recognize certain mannerisms as domineering or maybe even aggressive. These types of symbolisms are different, culture to culture, but it’s important to be aware of these types of mannerisms, what they mean when you do them to someone else, or how to react when someone does them to you. In wild dogs and wolves, direct eye control for long periods of time is considering a challenge to ones station in the pack. The more submissive of the two will break eye contact and look away, and if it doesn’t happen fast enough, there very likely could be a physical altercation to follow. Not quite as serious, but a botched handshake can make people feel the same way. A firm handshake, straight on with both hands relatively vertical is a respectful handshake to most. By altering her hand slightly vertical, to where your hand would be on top can be considered overly aggressive and an unnecessary show of dominance in a meeting with other people. It’s important to keep your body language calm, confident, and collected, without coming off like a ‘jerk’ or that you are trying to assert your dominance over the people around you.
Remain cool
Change is bound to be shocking, and one mistake that nice guys commit in their quest to becoming alphas is unleashing the crude beast that doesn’t really care about the people around them. They, effectively, become a ‘Jerk’ person making the transition to full on Alpha, and many guys don’t know how to get out of that stage. There’s nothing wrong with you; you are an awesome guy. Instead of changing your entire personality, just be yourself…only a little more assertive. Every guy has the potential to be an Alpha. Work on facing your fears, assert your control of your life and the situations around you, and you’ll find that your life comes together much easier and cleaner than you ever could have expected. In fact, the fact that women are more attracted to guys that ‘have it together’ is just a bonus, so you’ll find that you may have women perusing you instead of you chasing after them.
Don’t Over-Plan
It’s a good idea to have a general idea of what you want to do. A ‘Five Year Plan’ of where you want to be with your career or your finances is not only a good idea, it’s encouraged. Goals are a good thing, especially if you find you can stay motivated to fulfill them. However, there comes a time when planning can have negative effects on your ability to interact with people. When you have everything planned, you tend to go through life scripted. When your life is scripted, you’ll find opportunities to present what you have rehearsed and this can make you look desperate. While life can be stage, it certainly isn’t a scripted play, and when you find yourself wrapped up in your plans, you not only stop living, but you stop being able to adapt to the inevitable curve balls life throws at you.
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